When to Walk Away
So I've been thinking about this blog post all morning, but when I finally get a chance to pluck away at the keys my mind draws a blank. How convenient is that? Well I'm going to attempt to put some thoughts together on this matter and see how it comes out.
Knowing when to walk away from something is a hard thing for most people to do. No matter what the situation actually is you force yourself to believe that it is what you want it to be. I have been in this situation many times, and every single time fails to realize it and when someone points it out I'm in denial. How do you know when to walk away? Sometimes you feel so strongly about a situation that you just do not want to let it go. Do you let go, or do you keep telling yourself that things are going to work the way you want them to? It's always a hard choice to make.
My suggestions in the aspect of relationships....... Keep in mind they are my suggestions.. That even I can not seem to realize or do at times...
When tireless effort turns into tiresome effort....
You can be working so tirelessly for days, weeks, months to figure out if it is going to be or if it is not going to be, but when your body starts getting exhausted maybe it's best to take the hint and figure out that it's never going to happen..
When you begin to feel as though you are on a one way road.....
At first when someone starts to like someone they try to figure out if the feeling is mutual, because they want it to be everything that the other person does that could even have the slightest hint towards being a mutual feeling they take it as a yes... Over time they may begin feeling as though all of those things they were doing before aren't happening any more, but they are still doing them.. They still put that person at the top of their list no matter what the circumstance, but the come to find out it is a one way road... I think that once that feeling starts to come the person needs to just step back and say.. Hey maybe I need to walk away from this because I might end up getting let down.
When the feeling of detachment comes into play...
Ok so maybe I'm not sure how to put this one.. But here goes nothing. Say you and this person are really hanging out with each other a lot, almost every day, and then all of the sudden it changes. Now if you even see each other once or twice a week you are lucky. The long nightly phone calls turn into a phone call like once a week or once every few days and only for a very short amount of time. To me that is a sign of detachment. Maybe initial feelings they had changed or they got scared because they were spending too much time with that person, so they had to remove them self from the situation.... But they still keep you hanging there on a string, because they never know when they are going to be lonely and want to pull on that string.
When the break down in communication begins to happen...
Remember when at first you could talk to each other about anything? You knew what was on their mind and they knew what was on your mind.. Heck you were even completing the other person's sentences. You got that feeling of ooh man we are perfect for each other because we know what the other person is feeling and thinking... When that communication stops you might want to consider walking away, because that says that either you or the other person no longer feels comfortable sharing their problems, stories, or whatever with you. If you can not communicate there will never be anything out of the relationship.
Well I had so many more ideas this morning, but I just can't seem to remember any of them right now. I think it's part of this whole depression thing I'm going through right now, but the good news is.. I'm going to talk to a specialist tomorrow and I'm sure they will be able to offer a wealth of knowledge.. This will in turn give me more to write about. This blog thing helps me to get some of my feelings out of my brain and I feel good about it because I'm sure there are people going through the same type of situations I'm going through.. And any little insight can help.. I know it helps me.
You may wonder why I post this blog..? Well I've been thinking about some advice I have received and given some of my friends.. We can all relate and we are all going through, have gone through, or will go through this type of situation. I have recently received some great advice from a good friend of mine about one of my situations.. And I kept telling her other wise... But in the past couple days I've been thinking hard about the situations and analyzing things so I came up with my little bit of insight.. What I do with it.. I don't know... But I feel good knowing that I have brained stormed and maybe some people will be able to offer good advice or take advice from it. Does it cure my problem.....? No not at all... But it opens my eyes to the whole picture a little more and keeps me from being stuck inside of my own perspective from inside my little box...
On that note bloggers It's time for me to go get my clothing from the cleaners..
Have a blessed day..
Knowing when to walk away from something is a hard thing for most people to do. No matter what the situation actually is you force yourself to believe that it is what you want it to be. I have been in this situation many times, and every single time fails to realize it and when someone points it out I'm in denial. How do you know when to walk away? Sometimes you feel so strongly about a situation that you just do not want to let it go. Do you let go, or do you keep telling yourself that things are going to work the way you want them to? It's always a hard choice to make.
My suggestions in the aspect of relationships....... Keep in mind they are my suggestions.. That even I can not seem to realize or do at times...
When tireless effort turns into tiresome effort....
You can be working so tirelessly for days, weeks, months to figure out if it is going to be or if it is not going to be, but when your body starts getting exhausted maybe it's best to take the hint and figure out that it's never going to happen..
When you begin to feel as though you are on a one way road.....
At first when someone starts to like someone they try to figure out if the feeling is mutual, because they want it to be everything that the other person does that could even have the slightest hint towards being a mutual feeling they take it as a yes... Over time they may begin feeling as though all of those things they were doing before aren't happening any more, but they are still doing them.. They still put that person at the top of their list no matter what the circumstance, but the come to find out it is a one way road... I think that once that feeling starts to come the person needs to just step back and say.. Hey maybe I need to walk away from this because I might end up getting let down.
When the feeling of detachment comes into play...
Ok so maybe I'm not sure how to put this one.. But here goes nothing. Say you and this person are really hanging out with each other a lot, almost every day, and then all of the sudden it changes. Now if you even see each other once or twice a week you are lucky. The long nightly phone calls turn into a phone call like once a week or once every few days and only for a very short amount of time. To me that is a sign of detachment. Maybe initial feelings they had changed or they got scared because they were spending too much time with that person, so they had to remove them self from the situation.... But they still keep you hanging there on a string, because they never know when they are going to be lonely and want to pull on that string.
When the break down in communication begins to happen...
Remember when at first you could talk to each other about anything? You knew what was on their mind and they knew what was on your mind.. Heck you were even completing the other person's sentences. You got that feeling of ooh man we are perfect for each other because we know what the other person is feeling and thinking... When that communication stops you might want to consider walking away, because that says that either you or the other person no longer feels comfortable sharing their problems, stories, or whatever with you. If you can not communicate there will never be anything out of the relationship.
Well I had so many more ideas this morning, but I just can't seem to remember any of them right now. I think it's part of this whole depression thing I'm going through right now, but the good news is.. I'm going to talk to a specialist tomorrow and I'm sure they will be able to offer a wealth of knowledge.. This will in turn give me more to write about. This blog thing helps me to get some of my feelings out of my brain and I feel good about it because I'm sure there are people going through the same type of situations I'm going through.. And any little insight can help.. I know it helps me.
You may wonder why I post this blog..? Well I've been thinking about some advice I have received and given some of my friends.. We can all relate and we are all going through, have gone through, or will go through this type of situation. I have recently received some great advice from a good friend of mine about one of my situations.. And I kept telling her other wise... But in the past couple days I've been thinking hard about the situations and analyzing things so I came up with my little bit of insight.. What I do with it.. I don't know... But I feel good knowing that I have brained stormed and maybe some people will be able to offer good advice or take advice from it. Does it cure my problem.....? No not at all... But it opens my eyes to the whole picture a little more and keeps me from being stuck inside of my own perspective from inside my little box...
On that note bloggers It's time for me to go get my clothing from the cleaners..
Have a blessed day..
posted by TBaby @ 10:33 AM
2 Comments:
At August 10, 2006 12:25 PM,
Washington Cube said…
Not only relationships, but jobs, family issues, where you are living. Change is hard. Letting go of the known is hard.
At August 10, 2006 12:31 PM,
TBaby said…
Washington Cube, I agree with you 100% on that. I just used relationships because it was fresh on my mind, but yes I'm going through it in more ways then just relationships.
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